Would you ever NOT become someones friend because of the way they looked like?
We all know that for the most part, looks do play somewhat of a role to one degree or another in our romantic interests, but how important is looks in platonic friendships? Most would probably say, it doesn't matter at all. It's the inside that counts. Or does it? Is there anybody you didnt wanna become friends with strictly based on how they looked? such as, not pretty enough, too pretty, didnt like the way they dressed, didnt like the way they wore their hair, too overweight, bad complexion, too skinny...ect..ect....the list is endless.
How important is looks with platonic friendships? And that could be for both sexes.....

In a friend, looks don't matter at all to me. Just as long as they'll be there for me and whatnot, it's all good.

Romantic relationships, on the other hand...

Most of my ex-friends (I have now dedicated my life to the only friend who has never let me down, therefore I need no more friends) were fucking hideous-looking. Although actually I really just hung out with them for extra locker-space.

So, in conclusion, I guess I'm not shallow.

I think that in friends it really doesn't matter... is not as if you would bum your friend...

Hmmm...ohhh i dunno. I think looks matter to a certain extent, for alot of people i think, whether they care to admit it or not. I've seen it all too much. Looks and image. They've even taken studies. If someone is good looking and hip and all that jazz, they will find friends more readily and easily then the dorky not so good looking person. Cause most people wanna be friends with the god looking popular ones. I have a male friend, who used to have a friend a long time ago, who looked like a male model...( i never saw him tho)...and the girls literally just flocked around him like bees to honey. My friend felt it was a privaldge to have him as a friend. He felt flattered that someone as good looking as him could be his friend. He also said it would attract all the girls..lol...even tho he got ignored, but he thought it was way cool how one man could have such an impact on the opposite sex.
I also think looks matter greatly when you're in school. The person who is not so pretty, maybe they're fat, or have pimples or what-not, will get ignored and even made fun of, simply because of their appearance. If looks didnt matter, this kind of crap would never take place.
See what i'm saying here?

it's not popular, but.....

"It's what's inside that counts."

I don't think that most people focus on the fact that some aspects of your appearance reflect on your personality. But I don't think looks matter either. I'm in school and i find most of the "popular" kids that look good boring.as.fock.

Looks need not apply for friendships.

if anything at all i think style of clothes would matter in friends because style sort of reflects personality

only in some cases though

Hmm, I don't think looks matter when it comes to staying friends with someone...BUT I'll have to balls to admit I have never had a best friend that was ugly I dunno if that's just me being more willing to approach attractive people or people that are not ugly...and I know it sounds terrible, but in general I don't see myself going out of my way to be friend with most people...hmm, I sound like a complete bitch, but wanted to be honest. I guess if I become friends with someone, attractive or unattractive, they have an equal chance of staying one of my friends...but I guess I don't approach people that I would consider ugly...I'm a bitch Thanks for pointing it out C!

Looks are all I get.

Well... I also have friends. They don't look as pretty as all other bitches here in school, so... They are awesome. Really cool because they are different.

But... There are some guys in school here who look so f***in' hot, I don't know them and I was told that they are assholes.

I wish I could forget about them, but they just look really good and they are also cute, but basically it is just their looks. Well, this one guy called Dave looks really good, he is really handsome, I started to call him "the hottest guy in school" because he is really blonde, he has got blue eyes and...

He looks like Bjoern from Mando Diao and The Hives' singer Pelle Almqvist. And he is younger than I am, about one and a half years I guess. He might be about fifteen or even sixteen.

And he looks so good.

Anyway... There is this other boy and I found him really grumpy in the beginning, but with time I realized stuff about him and now I can't get out of him anymore. I even think that he looks like the young Liam Gallagher and that he is pretty. He is actually not pretty, but... C'mon, he's got long hair, big lips and he is really pale. Whatever turns me on... Let's say he has got several female characteristics.

I am like all boys who like cute girls, just the other way round.

Looks matter to me a lot because I never had a boyfriend and then there is paradise out there...

With Dave...

Come on, can't you forgive me. I am just a lonely lazy kid...

So, well, that's about me.

yeah i'd say for the most part, i find that looks dont matter.

It doesn't matter for friendships at all. I don't talk to bitches.

Well, most of my friends are female anyway. I have a weird feeling about boys. I can't really talk to the one half and the other half... Or a quarter... Let's say some... OK, they are quite a lot of guys who attract me and I can't talk to them.

I have the exact opposite problem in that I have only one friend that's a girl I just can't manage to keep friends that are girls...it's a problem

^perhaps they are jealous that you hang out with all boys and are intimidated?

Yeah, plus I'm sort of the type of person that's like "nah, I'll pass" when people wanna hang out all the time...and girls get kinda pissed abotu stuff like that. In general, if you don't talk your friends that are guys for a while the next time you hang out with them it's exactly the same...and with girls they're like "why didn't you call to go out this weekend" or whatever...I'm cool off that But yeah, when I was in high school (which I'm over now ) girls didn't like me cuz my best friend got extremely popular and became the one they all wanted to sleep with...didn't help there were rumors I was prego with his kid - thus all the girls hated me

well thats crappy. Yeah, its weird how girls react to such stupid things. just like you said, when they get on your case about not calling them over the weekend when they didnt call you either...big fucking deal, there's no need to get all worked up about some petty bullshit.

im tired.

No your not. It could just be a case of like attracts like.

they say that the best relationships come from those who are similar and that although opposites attract, those relationships never last that long or are stable.

Thats very true.

Yeah, I believe in that as well.

I haven't had any experience, but that's what I am looking for. A mate who I can talk to, like some of my friends in Germany, especially Ihatemusic. Never found a guy like that though.

More than anything, if you wanna be a friend of mine, you have GOT to have my sense of humor.

Not much, one of my friends looks like he has fur armor. WOW! THE DIVO MEGAMAN BLINKS!!!!

no

for been honest, i think look cares a bit. but like a 2 percent or something. i have a lotta friends and no one is like the other or like me. and it's ok. But sometimes i feel something inside related to this. I'm a bitch.

I feel the same way

all my friends are some hot bitches

But like Mo said "If you want to be a friend of mine you've got to have a sense of humor" I could care less if my friends were pretty/popular or not. I could not hang out with some boring pretty chick just to make myself look cool.

Do I?

Ah...

I am a mental bitch. Really harsh, but it's the way it is.


Yeah, I know what you mean. But the popular people don't talk to me anyway. They are all stupid.

They think they are better than everyon else. WHY is this shit world full of self-satisfied people who get all they want and they still complain about everything and then there are the "losers", the actual cool people because they don't have to make themselves better than other people, that is the decent part. But most of them can't do anything else, I for example can't fake myself, I can't pretend and in the end I don't want to unless there is a REALLY REALL stupid reason why I would like to have more... balls. Or just courage, you know? <- I am getting sentimental and deadly pathetic again.

if they are nice and interesting then it does not matter

but i couldnt be friends with a person that smelt, it would just be so dificult!

I know exactly what you mean....

There's a guy who's cool tot hang out with, but his hygeine isn't really up there....

I once observed that all of my friends were ridiculously good looking, but I didn't set out to make it that way. I don't really care.

yeah, its not that im embarrassed to be seen with them, im embarrassed for them because people stare or laugh. this girl goes to my school and i was friends with her for a little bit because she was really nice but the most obese person in my school (out of 2,000 kids). I dont talk to her at all anymore because she became too attached and would call me all the time. I dont think she really had that many friends. But that's what happens, when you get desperate for something, you drive everyone else away.

Aw, poor kid.

Is it ? So sad if it's true.

This thread reminds me of an article I recently rode about physique discrimination in social life. Some sociologists say that "the code of appearance often dictates our social life". It was demonstrated for exemple that when a professor had the pupil's photo on the copy he was correcting pretty children obtained better marks than less pretty children with equal level. This schema would apply in all the social life - work, friendship etc. The conclusion was that it was easier to be beautiful than ugly ( what a surprise ).
Maybe I am expressing my opinion a bit clumsily.
We're in a society of appearance and trying to pretend that physique appearance doesn't count sounds hypocrite. I deplore the importance given to appearance and just hope it doesn't apply in friendship.

I don't care as long as I have healthy friendships.

yeah, society now seems to be getting better and worse. Better in the aspect of technology, medicine, etc. But worse because more people are becoming superficial and materialistic (this girl who was in flagline in my school band said that she and more than half of the others have thrown up to lose weight and starved themselves because they think they're too fat for their costumes). But i've noticed that those who seem more attractive attract friends because they seem happy. Those who are less attractive tend to hide away with others that are similar and don't really project a very confident setting. Who wants to be with someone who will bring them down with them? Subconsciously i think we all sort of pick up on those things. Or maybe im just crazy.

Okay, I dont know how to say this.
Im not a shallow person, Im friends with everbody in different 'groups' at school.
Buuuuuut..
in all honesty, there are people I stay away from because of the way they look/dress.
Not because I feel highly of myself, or to just be a bitch, but just people I know to stay away from?

..I cant really explain it.

i dont think thats necessarily a bad thing. Sometimes looks do tell you about someone.

Looks don't matter to me in friendships. But I must admit that I'm not the best with friendships in general. I just seem to like to do my own thing lately. Unless it's a good friend, of course, I love to hang out with them and talk to them. But I think I'm making too little effort. But I also think I might be too quick to judge in other ways. Like if I see a group of girls around, sometimes I will automatically think... oh I'm different from them, we wouldn't really fit that well as friends. And that's stupid. Oh well. But I did have a good friend in high school who was really good looking and I must say that I got jealous of the attention she got ...but she was such a sweet person so that didn't stop her from becoming my best friend.

Yeah. I am a very lazy person. I just ask people for help. Well... And I talk to them and I try to be as nice as possible.

It is more that I need friends than friends need me.

Oh, no, that is wrong. I shouldn't have said that.

Well... It is like... If I could, I'd be around my friends all the time.

in my books they don't really matter. ya sure their has to be a physical and mental attraction but for me a personality is so much more. I don't care if your the hottest chick ever if you have the brain of a 16 year old school girl then their would be no attraction for me.

I remember I met this one girl(who im just friends with ), on a bus way out on vancouver island and I remember we just started talking randomily and then we exchanged emails just chat all the time about music life and energy!. its just totally rad. and for me thats so much more then a hot ass and a pair of breasts.
(P.S. we also jammed out and played winning days ! )

Nah. Boobs and Ass.

ahh how cute Kris.... i think its more along the lines if you get along with them kind of thing

i don't care about how the look ... no really ... they had to be interesting
like me
and modest!
like me !

yeah totally you know what I mean. its hard to type it out and such

lol same here.
it's a lot easier for me to befriend guys. they are easier to get along with.

'cause you're cute

its alot easier for me to be friends with girls around here,, all the guys are idiots!

I'm an idiot...so why are you friends with me you silly boy?

And and and...looks don't matter to me in friends. If you were able to see some of my real close friends...they aren't lookers to some and neither am I. Then on the contrary I have the handful that would knock your socks off...It's one big party and everyone is invited! Hahaha...hippies...

No. My friends could all be butt-ass ugly and I wouldn't care. Boyfriends, however...


That's basically the same thing Karli posted. Damnit.